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Alignment – a position of agreement or alliance. You want to look for areas that are out of alignment. For instance:
Are you and each of your team members in alignment with the vision for your organization? What about the desired outcomes for your team and division?
Resistance can occur when attitudes or beliefs are out of alignment with current circumstances.
Just like when a tire is out of alignment and it doesn’t cause disruption immediately in the effectiveness of the handling of the vehicle – misalignments in thinking or motivations don’t show up immediately – but rather over time.
Response-able. The ability to respond to different types of challenges and obstacles that leaders face. How response-able are you for the following types of situations that can occur to you, as a leader, at any time?
______ Loosing your top team member to another company or major illness
______ Loosing your top 3 clients or income sources
______ Are you response-able for growth of your company by 30% this year?
______ Industry changes at the magnitude and level that the health industry experienced during the transition to the Affordable Care Act – aka Obamacare.
______ How response able would your team be to a situation that would remove you from your leadership position for an extended period of time due to illness of yourself or a family member?
How response able is your team for different types of potential scenarios?
The Platinum Rule
Platinum Rule – A shift from the Golden Rule, which says to treat people the way YOU want to be treated. Treat others as THEY would like to be treated is known as the Platinum rule. This rule requires gaining an understanding of the other person’s motivations and preferences, instead of assuming they are the same as your own.
I may love when people are direct so if I follow the golden rule of treating others how I would like to be treated I am direct with others. Well, not everyone likes directness. In fact, some people would see directness as curt and unkind.
You may love to receive a big hug from other people and someone else may cring from hugs.
Actually, treating others the way you would like to be treated is all about the fact that you want to be treated the way you prefer so why not take the time to discover other people’s preferences so you can live by the platinum rule and treat them the way THEY would like to be treated?
Your Should Library
Your should library is what you think you or someone else “should” do or not do. We should all over others by thinking they shouldn’t be so curt, they should say hello in the morning when they pass you, or they should drive better, or be better parents.
Your should library is filled with volumes of deep biases that were built through your experiences. Values are your standards of behavior. They are your judgment of what is important in life. We tend to “should all over ourselves and other people”. We should be healthier, prettier, richer, more successful at work, better mothers, fathers, daugthers, or sons.
We should all over others by thinking they shouldn’t be so curt, they should say hello in the morning when they pass you, or they should drive better, or be better parents.
Our should library is extensive and mostly unconscious. We justify most of our actions by a should library that we may not have investigated thoroughly to know whether each should is actually still serving us.